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Thursday, August 14, 2008
Let's go to a domestic violence shelter or your taxdollars at work
Carey Roberts
Another Way Shelter Headed for a Meltdown?
2008-07-27 at 7:14 pm · Filed under Vox Populi
Last week my column revealed the all-too-common mistreatment of children in abuse shelters around the country. The article highlighted two incidents involving a Florida shelter — a former director who was cited for contributing to the delinquency of minors, and the sexual assault of a 4-year-old girl. [www.ifeminists.net/e107_plugins/content/content.php?content.360]
Following publication of that essay, several former employees of Another Way came forward to tell me there was much, much more to the story. What follows is an account of three Queen Bees, a demoralized and depleted staff, and a shelter in disarray. The sordid tale calls to mind the old saying, “Absolute power corrupts absolutely.”
Another Way, located in the northern Florida town of Lake City, has a gleaming facility with 35 beds and is headed by a director paid the tidy sum of $95,000. The staff consists of 30 persons and up to 20 volunteers. Over the last 2 years, the shelter has been plagued by an epidemic of staff “resignations” — 150 employees, more or less.
The former staffers shared with me eye-witness accounts of prison camp-like working conditions, misappropriated shelter assets, falsified documents, sex discrimination, illicit drug activities, horrific child abuse, illegal cover-ups, complacent oversight agencies, and more.
The shell-shocked women told me many of their former co-workers are unqualified, untrained, and even under-age. Some employees are required to work overtime without pay. Many are subjected to random tongue-lashings and at-will terminations.
A few felt set up for failure. One staffer, ordered to pull together extensive tax records on short notice, recounted her ordeal: “Toward the end of my deadline, I felt like I was going to have a mental break down…There [are] no words that can express the mental anguish that I was made to feel throughout the day.”
There were widespread reports of management using the shelter van and other resources for personal use. Staff training records were known to be falsified. When state auditors came to town, the managers would pull all-nighters to make sure the records were brought up to snuff.
The Queen Bees went out of their way to avoid helping abused men. One employee revealed, “I was personally instructed to do everything possible to discourage males to report abuse.”
Oddly, fewer than 15% of residents came to the facility with any physical injuries. Some of the residents had been charged with beating up their boyfriends and thrown in the clink. So shelter staff worked their feminine charms to procure their release and hide the law-breakers from their probation officers.
Druggies openly plied their habit. “I, on numerous occasions reported illegal drug use that I had witnessed take place on Shelter property and often my complaints were ignored,” a former employee revealed. “We always knew not to call the law unless you were prepared to be unemployed.”
One appalled woman described the shelter’s cover-up this way: “We’re here to empower women, not teach them how to lie, cheat, steal, and manipulate the system.”
Most troubling were the recurring incidents of child neglect and abuse — all swept under the rug. These are just three examples:
– Returning to the 4-year-old who was sexually assaulted by the 9-year-old girl, it turned out her perpetrator had been involved in inappropriate sex acts with another child at the shelter just two months before. That was never reported to the authorities.
– A one-month-old was left unattended in a baby swing. Despite the infant sobbing all day, a shelter manager upbraided the concerned employee with the rebuke, “We don’t tell these women how to parent their children.”
– An 8-year-old boy became angry and started to cry. Someone stuck him in a closed van in the middle of summer. Advised of this barbaric punishment, the manager ordered the boy left in the vehicle until he “decided to stop throwing a fit.”
Some incidents were reported to the Florida Coalition Against Domestic Violence. But the group never saw reason to take action. Maybe that’s because the FCADV director, Tiffany Carr, is known to be buddy-buddy with the Another Way head.
After they were expelled like a worn-out pack mule, many former workers experienced post-traumatic stress syndrome. Some required psychiatric treatment.
One ex-worker revealed to me, “They took advantage of their knowledge of my history of being an abuse victim and my desperate circumstances to intimidate me into accepting the abuse that they heaped on me.”
Comparing her employer to a perp, another woman reflected, “I later realized that like a battered woman my loyalties were still to my abuser.”
No wonder so many victims of abuse would never dream of going to an abuse shelter.
Source: here
Another Way Shelter Headed for a Meltdown?
2008-07-27 at 7:14 pm · Filed under Vox Populi
Last week my column revealed the all-too-common mistreatment of children in abuse shelters around the country. The article highlighted two incidents involving a Florida shelter — a former director who was cited for contributing to the delinquency of minors, and the sexual assault of a 4-year-old girl. [www.ifeminists.net/e107_plugins/content/content.php?content.360]
Following publication of that essay, several former employees of Another Way came forward to tell me there was much, much more to the story. What follows is an account of three Queen Bees, a demoralized and depleted staff, and a shelter in disarray. The sordid tale calls to mind the old saying, “Absolute power corrupts absolutely.”
Another Way, located in the northern Florida town of Lake City, has a gleaming facility with 35 beds and is headed by a director paid the tidy sum of $95,000. The staff consists of 30 persons and up to 20 volunteers. Over the last 2 years, the shelter has been plagued by an epidemic of staff “resignations” — 150 employees, more or less.
The former staffers shared with me eye-witness accounts of prison camp-like working conditions, misappropriated shelter assets, falsified documents, sex discrimination, illicit drug activities, horrific child abuse, illegal cover-ups, complacent oversight agencies, and more.
The shell-shocked women told me many of their former co-workers are unqualified, untrained, and even under-age. Some employees are required to work overtime without pay. Many are subjected to random tongue-lashings and at-will terminations.
A few felt set up for failure. One staffer, ordered to pull together extensive tax records on short notice, recounted her ordeal: “Toward the end of my deadline, I felt like I was going to have a mental break down…There [are] no words that can express the mental anguish that I was made to feel throughout the day.”
There were widespread reports of management using the shelter van and other resources for personal use. Staff training records were known to be falsified. When state auditors came to town, the managers would pull all-nighters to make sure the records were brought up to snuff.
The Queen Bees went out of their way to avoid helping abused men. One employee revealed, “I was personally instructed to do everything possible to discourage males to report abuse.”
Oddly, fewer than 15% of residents came to the facility with any physical injuries. Some of the residents had been charged with beating up their boyfriends and thrown in the clink. So shelter staff worked their feminine charms to procure their release and hide the law-breakers from their probation officers.
Druggies openly plied their habit. “I, on numerous occasions reported illegal drug use that I had witnessed take place on Shelter property and often my complaints were ignored,” a former employee revealed. “We always knew not to call the law unless you were prepared to be unemployed.”
One appalled woman described the shelter’s cover-up this way: “We’re here to empower women, not teach them how to lie, cheat, steal, and manipulate the system.”
Most troubling were the recurring incidents of child neglect and abuse — all swept under the rug. These are just three examples:
– Returning to the 4-year-old who was sexually assaulted by the 9-year-old girl, it turned out her perpetrator had been involved in inappropriate sex acts with another child at the shelter just two months before. That was never reported to the authorities.
– A one-month-old was left unattended in a baby swing. Despite the infant sobbing all day, a shelter manager upbraided the concerned employee with the rebuke, “We don’t tell these women how to parent their children.”
– An 8-year-old boy became angry and started to cry. Someone stuck him in a closed van in the middle of summer. Advised of this barbaric punishment, the manager ordered the boy left in the vehicle until he “decided to stop throwing a fit.”
Some incidents were reported to the Florida Coalition Against Domestic Violence. But the group never saw reason to take action. Maybe that’s because the FCADV director, Tiffany Carr, is known to be buddy-buddy with the Another Way head.
After they were expelled like a worn-out pack mule, many former workers experienced post-traumatic stress syndrome. Some required psychiatric treatment.
One ex-worker revealed to me, “They took advantage of their knowledge of my history of being an abuse victim and my desperate circumstances to intimidate me into accepting the abuse that they heaped on me.”
Comparing her employer to a perp, another woman reflected, “I later realized that like a battered woman my loyalties were still to my abuser.”
No wonder so many victims of abuse would never dream of going to an abuse shelter.
Source: here
Sunday, July 13, 2008
Female stupidity
Atlanta Stripped of 'Men at Work' Signs After Complaints of Bias
Thursday, July 10, 2008
By Catherine Donaldson-Evans
Political correctness rules the road in Atlanta — which is replacing all its "Men at Work" signs with gender-neutral ones after a women's magazine editor complained of bias.
The project, which involves painting over the existing 50 "Men at Work" and "Men Working" signs with those that say simply "Workers Ahead" or "Workers," will cost a total of $1,000, Atlanta Public Works Commissioner Joe Basista told FOXNews.com.
About half of the city's 100 Public Works employees are women, said Basista, so he complied with PINK magazine editor Cynthia Good's request to stop warning passersby of men at work when women were right there alongside them.
"It seemed like the right thing to do," Basista said.
The change-over, which Basista wants to complete by the end of the month, has met with little resistance so far, he said.
But it could raise eyebrows when Good goes national with her crusade — which she's planning to do.
"We're calling on the rest of the nation to follow suit and make a statement that we will not accept these subtle forms of discrimination," she told The Atlanta Journal-Constitution.
The city will have to shell out an additional $144 per new sign ordered in the future, Basista said. But the $1,000 initial cost to paint over the existing ones is not a big hit to the Public Works budget, especially since national industry guidelines suggest gender-neutral road signs, according to the commissioner.
"We hadn't really thought about it before," said Basista. "I said, let's do it. We're changing the signs now. We're hoping to encourage others to follow."
The "Men at Work" roadway warnings were used throughout Atlanta and would often be posted where women were toiling next to their male counterparts.
The project was launched on Thursday, according to Basista.
Some female Public Works employees complained about the male-focused signs years ago, according to city union leader Gina Pagnotta.
"It is a little bit biased to say 'Men Working,'" she told the Journal-Constitution. "Women are working, too."
Source: here
A woman's magazine editor (isn't that gender bias? Oh yeah,it is gender bias against men so it's allowed) has a problem with these signs. First of all it is mostly men doing these jobs,especially the hard work such as digging and pouring hot tar,especially in summer. Women either hold the signs or other light work. As far as I'm concerned this woman can take one of her pink magazines and shove it up her pussy. It just might change her disposition and spare the rest of us a feminist headache.
Thursday, July 10, 2008
By Catherine Donaldson-Evans
Political correctness rules the road in Atlanta — which is replacing all its "Men at Work" signs with gender-neutral ones after a women's magazine editor complained of bias.
The project, which involves painting over the existing 50 "Men at Work" and "Men Working" signs with those that say simply "Workers Ahead" or "Workers," will cost a total of $1,000, Atlanta Public Works Commissioner Joe Basista told FOXNews.com.
About half of the city's 100 Public Works employees are women, said Basista, so he complied with PINK magazine editor Cynthia Good's request to stop warning passersby of men at work when women were right there alongside them.
"It seemed like the right thing to do," Basista said.
The change-over, which Basista wants to complete by the end of the month, has met with little resistance so far, he said.
But it could raise eyebrows when Good goes national with her crusade — which she's planning to do.
"We're calling on the rest of the nation to follow suit and make a statement that we will not accept these subtle forms of discrimination," she told The Atlanta Journal-Constitution.
The city will have to shell out an additional $144 per new sign ordered in the future, Basista said. But the $1,000 initial cost to paint over the existing ones is not a big hit to the Public Works budget, especially since national industry guidelines suggest gender-neutral road signs, according to the commissioner.
"We hadn't really thought about it before," said Basista. "I said, let's do it. We're changing the signs now. We're hoping to encourage others to follow."
The "Men at Work" roadway warnings were used throughout Atlanta and would often be posted where women were toiling next to their male counterparts.
The project was launched on Thursday, according to Basista.
Some female Public Works employees complained about the male-focused signs years ago, according to city union leader Gina Pagnotta.
"It is a little bit biased to say 'Men Working,'" she told the Journal-Constitution. "Women are working, too."
Source: here
A woman's magazine editor (isn't that gender bias? Oh yeah,it is gender bias against men so it's allowed) has a problem with these signs. First of all it is mostly men doing these jobs,especially the hard work such as digging and pouring hot tar,especially in summer. Women either hold the signs or other light work. As far as I'm concerned this woman can take one of her pink magazines and shove it up her pussy. It just might change her disposition and spare the rest of us a feminist headache.
Thursday, July 10, 2008
O'Reilly gives black women a pass
Now the count is 2. The first one to give black women a pass was the women's candidate Barrack Obama when he blamed black men for deserting their families when it could have been just as easy for her to push him out the front door. Now O'Reilly does the same thing by talking down to these guys and lays the blame at their feet when neither O'Reilly or Obama know the man's circumstances as to why he is in this situation. Typical of the media and the candidates to ignore men's problems and to ignore women's faults. Then they wonder why the country is in the situation it is today.
The Christie Brinkley divorce and the women and wannabes
The Christie Brinkley divorce case sounds just as typical as a divorce occurring between nobodies and it could have been just as anonymous as any other and it would have been if Christie Brinkley had allowed it but she wanted it public. Brinkley said she was looking out for her children but was she when she puts them through the media wringer it makes me doubt her sincerity. Everybody is jumping Peter Cook's case. So what if he's looking at porn. Everybody needs a hobby and if porn is his more power to him. If Brinkley wasn't giving it up then chances are he looked elsewhere because after all if the kitchen at home is permanently closed then you eat out,it just that simple. On O'Reilly I saw where Megyn Kelly was dripping with venom when describing this case and O'Reilly the mangina was there to agree with her all the way. Never let it be said that O'Reilly doesn't lick female ass whenever possible. I'm sure there are other women like Kelly whom will likewise be dripping with venom toward Peter Cook and other manginas like O'Reilly who will be there to champion them. Peter Cook got fucked in both divorce court and the court of public opinion. But then again everybody in the old media licks female ass so that's nothing new.
Sunday, July 6, 2008
A look into the female mind
I read this on the Forever Male blog and found the bitch who wrote had true audacity but at least she's honest and a whore which makes her an honest whore.
Why I Don't Do "Dutch"
or
(I only wanna’ be "equal" when it’s to my advantage!)
Men often complain that women don’t know what they want. I do.
I only want to be considered "equal" when it's to my advantage.
On the job, if I do the same work, have the same credentials, and comparable tenure to my male peer, I want to be paid the same. Bottom line.
On a date with a guy, I reserve the right to have different “Standard Operating Procedures.” If he asks me out, I expect him to pay. If he wants to win me over, I expect to be wooed, whined and dined. Period.
Some folks might find my way of thinking to be contradictory or crazy.
So be it.
I figure if men don’t have to do the child birth thing, or suffer from P.M.S. , we as women ought to have some clear advantages too! And I’m not ashamed.
(When was the last time women were required to serve on the front lines of a war? When was the last time that a woman was called a "coward" for not showing heroism or doing what society wanted? When was the last time women did the dangerous jobs that no one else wanted? Wait a minute,women never did any of these things. IT WAS AND STILL IS MEN DOING THESE THINGS OR BEING FORCED TO DO THEM. Cry me a fucking river you fucking cunt.)
There are, however, some exceptions to my policy. I will treat a man to a meal--
A) If he just lost his job, and is able to provide proof.
B) If he’s celebrating a birthday, and is able to provide proof.
C) If we are in a steady, committed relationship, and his actions provide proof.
Otherwise, the ball is in his court. I see it as a "chivalry" thing.
I toppled upon this topic today, while watching THE VIEW. During their "Hot Topics" segment, Meredith Viera confessed that when she was on the dating scene, she would always go "dutch" to establish her independence.
Some of my girlfriends have stated that they “pitch in” as well. They argue that paying their own way prevents a guy from having any expectations of sex when the night comes to an end. I beg to differ! He can "expect" anything he wants to. That doesn’t mean it’s gonna’ happen!
For years I’ve "expected" thinner thighs, a drama free relationship, a Partridge Family reunion, and fame and fortune. I’m still waiting. Such is life!
I say that a guy has no right to expect me to give him "dessert" just because he gives me dinner. Or anything else. My affections can’t be bought. Now, placing them on lay-away… maybe?
Which begs the question — Is finance integral to romance? Should the two happily coexist? When dealing with the expenses of dating, who pays for what? And when?
The issue seems to get trickier these days as women become more liberated, and many earn more than their potential mates.
One thing's for sure, there needs to be more dialogue dealing with this issue, as misunderstandings typically cause blooming relationships to fizzle fast.
Such was the case with a friend of mine named "Jimmy". He was sharing with me how a two-week relationship he had with a very attractive and fun female came to a halt when she began to ask him for money for her bills and general primping. According to him, her expectations were extremely out of line and premature, since they were not yet in a relationship.
Her rationale was that since he benefited from her salon-fresh appearance, he shouldn’t mind forking over funds for weekly hair and nail appointments.
Unable to reach a happy medium, he stopped seeing her.
So here’s the deal. If you’re currently seeing someone that you’d like to continue seeing in the future, have the money talk.
According to Dr. Judy Kuriansky, author and relationship expert, here are a few things to consider and embrace:
» Attitudes about money stem from your experiences, cultural and religious backgrounds, personality traits, and what you learned from your parents.
» Accept, appreciate, and make arrangements about your individual style of handling money.
» Having ongoing discussions about money is essential to a healthy relationship and will prevent problems down the road.
» Count your blessings more than your bank accounts.
» Whether you come across a shortfall or windfall in your finances, keep level headed and even tempered with each other.
What are your views on romance and finance? I’d love to hear ‘em! Maybe your “words of wisdom” might be featured in a future column. Email me at Gemsjen@yahoo.com.
Source: here
She says that he can't buy her but isn't she putting herself up for the highest bidder? Yes she is. Can I get a raise of hands from the men interested in dating her? Nobody here raised their hands. Shows I have smart readers.
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