Are women who report being “raped” evil?
Are women who report being raped evil? That’s the challenging question I found thrown out on a message board I belong to recently. Here’s my answer.
In a way the closest PARALLEL crime to rape is NOT something like murder or mugging, but theft. What the rapist is doing is in effect TAKING the woman’s body and using it for his pleasure WITHOUT her permission. In a way he’s a kind of “sex burglar” rather than some sort of serial killer.
Of course, the LOGIC of that position is that rape is NOT a “crime against the person” but a “crime against property.”
That then brings up the question of what we mean by property and whether it IS just the woman’s right to “own” her body.
For instance, if you’re married or in a relationship with a guy, what’s the “property” status of your body?
Have you “given up” or at least “leased” some of your “ownership rights” to your body by the act of marrying or entering into a relationship?
And if you’re one of that tiny minority of “stranger rapees” then has your hubby or boyfriend got a right to sue the rapist for stealing his property?
It raises a whole series of fascinating legal and moral questions.
For one thing, if you look on sex as a business transaction in the sense that the woman “owns” her body and “owns” the right to allow men to use it sexually, doesn’t that mean that ALL sexual behaviour, consensual or not, is simply an act of prostitution?
And if we grant that the legal “ownership” of her body belongs to a woman, doesn’t that ALSO raise legal questions about the “ownership” of the male sperm?
If we say that the woman’s eggs belong to her, so too does his sperm belong to the man. Whether it’s rape or consensual sex,, he’s “giving” something of himself to the woman in the act of fucking her.
So what about the legal rights of the “sperm donor?” If you’re going to look on the egg as a woman’s property, you have to also look on the sperm as the man’s property.
Because the man’s sperm fertilises the woman’s egg, that makes a new and far more complicated issue when we’re talking “ownership.”
It makes, for instance, the question of abortion a moot point. You can say “it’s a woman’s right to choose what to do with her body,” but by the act of aborting a foetus for which the man was equally responsible, isn’t she “stealing” something from HIM?
Now let’s turn to the feminist idea that rape isn’t about sex but about power.
Interesting, then, that MOST women who get raped tend to be attractive and aged between 18 and 35 years old, the very time we’re at our optimum period for breeding.
Interesting also that women in THAT age bracket who get raped are MORE likely to be upset about it than older women who go through the same experience.
Interesting also that a woman who gets raped is slightly MORE likely to get pregnant than a woman who has consensual sex.
In the animal kingdom, “rape sex” is pretty much the norm. There’s a certain type of scorpion, for instance, that has an appendage that is PURELY designed to hold the female helpless during the act of sex.
Now let’s say what I think about why women who report rape.
Do I feel that a woman who’s LYING about being raped should report it?
Do I feel that a woman who’s so drunk she can’t even remember much about what she did except that she had sex report it?
No, I don’t.
If you can’t control yourself then you’ve got to be ready to take the consequences.
Doi I feel that a woman who wanders around rough neighbourhoods dressed like a slut and gets raped should report it?
No, I don’t.
If she’s so fucking stupid that she can’t see the likely dangers of behaving like that then she’s only got herself to blame.
I hate the way in which some women refuse to take responsibility for their actions. (And men too, of course).
It’s a fucking cop-out to say “well, I got pissed, dressed like a slut, talked like a toilet and behaved like a whore but I didn’t expect to get raped just because I did that.”
Grow up, girl! What the fuck else did you expect?
I know what it’s like to be raped so I DON’T talk out of ignorance.
I also know that it was MY fault it happened.
I WAS pissed as a newt, dressed like a slut, talking like a whore and behaving like one. I was also giving out mixed messages.
I know what happened to me WAS my fault.
Women who report rape aren’t evil; just as long as they’re telling the truth and it wasn’t their own fault.
And, sadly, most of the time they ARE either lying or it WAS their own fault.
Only 8% of “rapes” are actually “stranger rapes.”
That in itself means that 92% of the claims by women that they WERE raped are just LIES.
And even when a “rape” case comes to court, 95% of the time the defendant is found NOT guilty.
The reasons are always the same – either the woman was deliberately LYING about it or else it was HER fault that it happened.
If that’s the case then IMO it’s NOT the MAN who should get punished; it’s the WOMAN.
That’s how I see it, anyway.